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User	Aknahlij_d 1 | 2005-08-15 |
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Message	you’ll find him, don’t ever think otherwise. they are right tho, if you found something good in yourself, other people are more likely to see it. god bless. ~P.J.

User	mae | 2005-08-12 |
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Message	You know, Misty, you could very well be right - you may never find that "certain someone" who will love you forever. So what are you going to do about it? Do you really want to just lay down and die? Wolfie is right. You need to discover within yourself a person to love. Someone who can stand up and say ’this is me. take it or leave it.’ and then be happy WITH YOURSELF either way. She’s there, she’s just hidden under all the teenage angst that is drowning you. Fall in love with yourself, misty, before you fall in love with someone else. mae

User	WolfStar | 2005-08-12 |
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Message	misty, every girl who gets dumped or finds themselves without a boyfriend thinks they’re going to die an old and lonely hag... it’s natural. that’s why we go running to the first loser we find and cling to them because we’re afraid of being alone. and then the guy finally gets the clue that we’re pyschotic and skips town... then the whole process starts all over again. what you have to realize is that you’ll never be in a healthy relationship if you believe the only way to be complete is with the attention and adoration of another person. healthy relationships have healthy and self-loving people in them. if one person is significantly more dependent on one than the other, then somebody is always getting the short end of the deal. you are ONE person, you are your own being and should have enough love for yourself to know that no one MAKES you happy. you make yourself happy. if you can make yourself happy with someone, you can certainly do the same without them. everybody falls on their ass. my boyfriend dumped me on our 1 year anniversary (2 days before my birthday) and i moved away and never saw him again. sure, it hurt. A LOT. but my life and my potential for happiness is not dependent on him or on anyone else. i have control of what makes me happy, and i know i deserve it. he can’t take that away from me. you know what? if you keep thinking you NEED someone to give your life meaning, then you might just spend the rest of your life alone. because healthy people know to seek other health people. so heal YOURSELF. love yourself. you should love yourself more than anyone else, even if he’s married to you. you are the only person whose heart and conscience you have to deal with at the end of the day. and there are 6 billion people on this planet. chances are, you will not end up alone. in fact, the odds are totally against you being alone forever. you know that. the drama will pass, i assure you. we’ve all been there, and if you’re like me, then to some degree you still are. if you want to do one good thing for yourself, don’t jump from guy to guy for fear of being alone. it’s a waste of everybody’s time, especially yours. someday your self-love may be the only thing you have. cultivate and nurture it. you deserve it.

User	Aknahlij_d 1 | 2005-08-11 |
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Message	you could’ve had AAAAALLL this. lol

User	mae | 2005-08-11 |
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Message	Misty, how old are you? How, exactly, do you know the things you’ve stated? Answer - you don’t. You’re just letting loneliness and depression get the better of you. Give it time - and do something to get yourself OUT of yourself. Volunteer, go to church, join a sports team. Something, anything, that will take your focus off yourself and put it onto others. You’re a more attractive person when you’re thinking of others, anyway. Get away from the computer and DO SOMETHING. mae

User	Aknahlij_d 1 | 2005-08-11 |
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Message	i feel like that sometimes. i feel as though i love people who’d never give me a second thought. you passed on me misty. you’ve made my sadness complete.