| User | zadhoevlhu13 | | Topic | Love or Friendship?? | | Message | Its really quite confusing isnt it. Love begins with friendship.Relationships are stronger when there is friendship as a foundation. Friendship produces sweethearts..Friendships that turned to love,,could end to enemy or worst...act as though you didnt know each other..Friendship once mixed with love is sometimes ruined. Did you get the point??
I’m in this situation
I am in love with this person..We used to be good friends.. then soon found ourselves...in love with each other. So were already a year long.
Ive got friends...before we even got into relationship. Me and my special someone has the same group of friends..And it turned out that all three of us are sharing the same feeling.We are in love with "my special someone" (i am now having relationship with).. one of our friends made way and gave up that feeling... she flew to other country because of parents request. The other one (second friend) is still there. When the two of us got together, something in our second friend changed. now that 2nd friend is causing us our fights every once in a while. That 2nd friend is acting as though he’s the one in relationship with her!! SOmetimes he wants "my special someone" to treat him in a special way which is ofcourse not possible because she’s already in a relationship with me! and i dont know if i should get mad at him or understand him cause he is my friend.
Another, i am fearing that (if in an unknown reason or event) our relationship ends, i fear that our once good friendship would be gone with the breaking of relationship.
Just confuses me..
Now back to the questions,what really important, what matters,,what’s your stand... Love or Friendship.. or any opinion??
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| User | FarawayFeelings | 2006-06-17 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | You know i had this problem sometimes back though it was a littel different my best friend is jealous of my lover, whom i am truly in love with, while i am with a "boyfriend" to cover up the one i really caer about becasue my paretns hate him. But anyway my best friend is very very jealous of him, she helps us out but does it half heartedly, and sometimes when hes around she gets possesive now im bisexual but my lover doesn’t know that, but my best friend does and she keeps insinuating it in front of him when i todl her that it would be best if i told him when i was ready, sometimes jealousy or want of somethign really warps people...
- Anya |
| User | MyFinal Letters | 2006-04-12 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | a wise man once said, "I’d never want to belong to a club that would have me for a member"
you think about that.
Sam Bend |
| User | ladydeathstrike | 2006-03-23 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | Boy are you in a tough position, let me think.... its a hard decision but for me personally I value friendship alot more than a relationship why? I know that they (love and friendship) both are important but for me taking that risk is too much because once everything is over all i would have would be memories of that love and of that friendship and in the end all the efforts that you did to try and not loose them were futile because you ended up loosing both.
Im in a similar situation as yours but the difference with me is that this person has been in love with me since we met and until this year we had never really discussed it and after giving it much thought and analyzing to see if I would really take that risk I came to the conclusion that if its meant to work, it might not happen today or tomorrow but sometime in the future.
The thing with your friend I know its hard but you should try to explain it that things are not the same, that you guys are no longer just friends. You have a relationship with someone and them trying to make a move on your girl isnt right, first of all its insulting you because if he’s supposed to be your friend this sort of disrespect should not happen, he should respect your decision and try to move on. But above all the advise I can give, I would say communication.
that is the key to everything, with your friendship and relationship. Dont let the world control your relationship if it really matters to you.
hope this helps
andrea |
| User | zadhoevlhu13 | 2006-03-05 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | yeah... you’ve got a point. If you say, that "our friendship has already changed, and not for the better", would it be right if i end up our friendship and act as though we haven’t known each other? because it is exactly what i am doing now... |
| User | mae | 2006-03-05 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | If you are involved in a relationship and one of your friends is trying to move in on your girlfriend, I’d say your friendship has already changed, and not for the better. While leaving the country is a bit extreme, at least your other friend valued you enough NOT to try to steal your girlfriend. I don’t think it needs to be a question of love or friendship; actually, it sounds more like it’s a question of this particular ’friend’s’ idea of friendship and what it entails. mae |
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