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User	danativ | 2006-12-17 |
Subject	Re: serious question
Message	love is undefineable until it is experienced and then all the symbolism and captivating aspects of love begin to make you fly. You fly sometimes out of the realms of common sense and that in itself can be a wonderful and exhilerating flight. You sometimes act like you’ve never acted before. Love gives strenght and confidence and it breaks people hearts and bend them to ther knees. To ask a question such as you have an begin it with "In any circumstance..." can be a little unfair to expect an objective answer from as all circumstances surrounding love are not the same. In an attempt to give you the nature of my own opinion I would say this.... To never explore or confess to feeling love is to deny yourself, what is inexplicably one of life’s most natural forms of unity. You said.... "do you tell someone you love them and face fear of rejection or keep it too your self and not say a thing, try forget the unforgettable." Would you do the opposite and never have concluded that he/she may be in love with you? Good luck in whatever direction you tread.

User	onetruesmartass | 2006-11-17 |
Subject	untitled
Message	The fear of rejection often holds people back from exposing themselves, and it is a valid fear, yet at the same time nothing risked is nothing gained, or whatever that saying is. How far would I go? For my husband, there’s no limit to what I would do. If it were a choice between his life or mine, I’ll gladly lay mine down. Of course, if someone said to me "if you loved me you’d do this" I’d probably tell them to take a flying leap. Does love conquer all? No. There are times (abuse, addiction, extreme lifestyle differeces) when love just isn’t enough and you have to walk away. I wouldn’t say that love is a battle, not really even a struggle unless it’s made to be. But if you’re willing to compromise, listen to the other person’s point of view and fight fair, then it’s easy breezy. I’ve heard the saying that being in love means never having to say you’re sorry. I think being in love means you know when to say you’re sorry. *onetruesmartass*

User	Jeniffer | 2006-11-14 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Love is when you put someone else above yourself; when you can understand that person like you could get inside their heart and mind and for feel what they feel, which makes you care more about what happens to them then what happens to you. This does not mean that you should neglect yourself; sometimes the need to take care of yourself is greater than whatever the other person needs. Nevertheless more often than not the right thing to do is put yourself last or at least second. If the person returns your love, you will get in return what you give to them, although maybe not in the same way that you gave it. However if the person just takes and takes and takes and shows no appreciation of you, you should not kill yourself to make them love you. The Bible says to turn the other cheek, and that love endures all; if you really love someone like this, who doesn’t love in return, it does not mean that you should give up on them. The bible also says that while anyone can love someone who loves them back, the love that really matters is the kind that loves whether or not it gets anything back. the best rt hing to do is to keep loving them in your own way and show it in a perfect way. And if you love someone who doesn’t know it, the worst thing you can do is hide it. Always let this out, for it is the strongest kind of energy in us, and to block it is very harmful. Tell them!

User	mae | 2006-09-28 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Always say "I love you" and "thank you." Love is not love but control if the other person expects you to do something for them that would be harmful to you, whether emotionally, psychologically or physically, or to do something that you consider wrong. If you’re hearing "well, if you really loved me, you’d do it," you may love that person, but they certainly aren’t showing love for you. Whether love conquers all is not the point. If you love freely, you’ve won, even if you are never loved in return by this person. Our hearts are made for love. If we think we are ’protecting’ ourselves by refusing to love, we are wrong. Love is for our hearts like oil is on leather - it keeps them soft, pliable and over time gives a lovely patina. Battle? Love is not the battleground. Our desire for control or power in the relationship is where the battle comes in. If we release that for love, the battle is over and you’ve won - both of you. mae

User	whirl | 2006-09-24 |
Subject	untitled
Message	love is not a battle. it’s give and take. that simple. ppl who dissect it and over-examine it think it’s a battle. if you don’t tell this person you love them, you will never know! keep it to yourself and you will be forever thinking ’i wonder what would have happened if..........’ i say go for it. but that’s easy for me to say, i know. this is something you really have to decide for yourself. whirl**