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User	MyX | 2005-07-06 |
Subject	Correction!
Message	my father put it this way, not one Myx

User	MyX | 2005-07-06 |
Subject	untitled
Message	My father put it this one, and it has made sense ever since. Lovers, dating, the whole damn game, is just like the alphabet. You start at A, and you’ll get to z somehow before you die. And it never really matters how many you’ve gone through. Maybe your second lover will get you to g, and your third i and your fourth all the way to q....who knows? It would suck to know the one you’re with is the last one...it takes the whole appeal and interest away. MyX

User	secret moon | 2005-06-28 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Wolfstar ... First of all, you’re right, you are pretty young. I don’t know you at all but I’ve known people like you, who are sick of holding up both ends of a relationship (that would be me, even though it’s never been a romantic relationship), but don’t be afraid to trust. If you start practicing trust now, it will be easier later. Trust is a hard thing to do, but it’s a decision you have to make, just like everything else in life once you get down to the nitty-gritty. Give yourself time and keep hoping. And Aknahlij_d 1... I totally understand your feelings of being "repellant"... I’ve been there! But (wow, I love being able to say this with confidence!) it will change! You’ve just got to be open-minded to everything and everyone. No, SHE may not be that girl with the perfect body you see sitting across a smoky room; instead, she may be the girl with the less-than-perfect body walking down the sidewalk of a busy road. Just keep your eyes open, your options open, and things will get better. Trust me! -Syd

User	Aknahlij_d 1 | 2005-06-26 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Well i really do believe in that shit, but not in my case, because somethigns very repellant about me, but i just can’t figure it out.

User	WolfStar | 2005-06-16 |
Subject	untitled
Message	You know what it is? Some people get bored. They miss the game of hunting and chasing, and settling down with the same person everyday scares them because it’s a different kind of relationship at that point. Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with spending the rest of my life with someone I really love. But that doesn’t necessarily mean marriage. Marriage is a custom and an offical promise. My own personal promise outside of the law is good enough for me. I’m not lulled into a false sense of security. But I think most people want to get married. So it would be hard to find someone who would live that way with me... I’m sure my ideas will change though. I am, after all, so very young.

User	idlewriter | 2005-06-15 |
Subject	True Love
Message	Okay, so many people go through alot of marriages and divorces, but it’s only b/c they’re looking for a feeling they lost in the first marrige or have never found...I do believe there is only one person, one soul mate for each person...there can only be one person who can send chills down your spine, butterflies in your stomach and make your knees weak at every sight you catch of them....All those marriages people go through, if they say they’re in love more than one time than it’s not true--they’re seeking it and at the first chance they grab it to make sure that if it is love they don’t want to miss it.... Just a thought..... -stacey-

User	mae | 2005-06-15 |
Subject	untitled
Message	I guess I’d just suggest for you, Wolfie, that you be open to changing your views of life and people. Since you’ve moved in with your sister, there is opportunity for everything you’ve known before to be different, completely. I spent five years as a single mom and I became very independent. I am smart, I was capable and could do anything I set my mind to. But that feeling of independence pales in comparison to the feelings of freedom, belonging and love I have as part of this marriage. Life is made of surprises and unexpected happenings. If you close your mind to the possibility of such a relationship for yourself, then you will also close your heart and the likelihood of finding it will diminish greatly. That would be a real shame. mae

User	WolfStar | 2005-06-15 |
Subject	untitled
Message	I don’t think i could be bvrave enough to be like that, mae. I have always found my only sense of stability in the fact that I’m at the top of my game when I’m by myself. I have always stood alone in life, and that gives me strength to be something greater... I dunno. I guess depending on another person in that way seems really scary for me personally. I’m not afraid of rejection, I just dread having to hold everything together for people who don’t hold up their end, like I’ve had to do all my life. People can be just shitty like that...

User	mae | 2005-06-15 |
Subject	untitled
Message	I was married previous to my present marriage of 26 years. I was "in love", or at least thought I was. Sadly, we divorced. Several years later, my darling came along. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE between just being married to somebody and BEING MARRIED or BEING A SOULMATE to someone. That doesn’t mean it will always be easy or you’ll always get along. It just means that it’s all worth it. Giving up other lovers or other adventures is not seen as a sacrifice, or even a choice as Wolfie states. You don’t think of the other lovers or the other adventures because this person, THIS PERSON, is all there is. It is impossible to describe. It’s just a totally different feeling, a totally different desire, a totally different phenomenon. Yes, there are passages in your life and yes, you change, but you change together, usually not in ways you’d expect. Right now, my husband and I are going through what I’d consider a desert in our life (though he doesn’t even know we’re going through anything!) A year ago he suffered a stroke and that was a hard anniversary. Right now he’s incredibly busy at work, yet still under the effects of the stroke; we’re in a transition time - getting older and having to decide our future. We’re going to have to sit down and talk which is always scary for him (as for most guys!). The difference is, there will be no thought of cutting and running for either of us. We may not change in the same directions, he and I, but together we’ll change in OUR direction. We are we, not he and I. We will decide who we are now TOGETHER. We are a unit, one piece, functioning only as a piece. Were either of us removed, the other would be just so much worthless junk. So many strident women have tried to make a case for women’s independence of men and in general, I agree with them. But individually, I don’t think either men or women are independent of the other. And for A woman, there is no independence from A man, or vice versa. I am not independent of my husband, nor he of me. My identity is enhanced by "belonging" to him and by "possessing" him. There is only him for me. mae

User	WolfStar | 2005-06-14 |
Subject	untitled
Message	There’s no way there’s only 1 person MEANT for you in the world. You may be with 1 person your entire life and be perfectly happy, but that doesn’t mean you are only MEANT for that person. Over the course of your life you change and grow as experiences shape you. There are some people who are right for you in certain stages of your life, but not necessarily all of them. Each person creates a different experience for you, and you learn something different with every person. There are some lessons you can’t learn with just one person. There are lessons you only learn with one person. Either way you miss out on certain lessons. You just have to be content with the choice you make and the sacrifices that come with it, and the things you will not experience on the path you choose.

User	secret moon | 2005-06-11 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Honestly guys, I really don’t think there’s only one. Of course, I haven’t even been in any sort of romantic relationship yet, but just from what I’ve seen, it seems like there are many different people who could potentially be the one -- they’ve all got a certain cast of traits that you look for -- but as far as there only being one one (does that make sense) then I don’t think so. -Syd

User	Star_searcher | 2005-06-10 |
Subject	untitled
Message	You may think there are many people you could be happily married to but you would soon doscover a fault, fall out of love (if you were ever in it). I believe there is only one person out there for everyone. You might be lucky enough to meet them when you’re young or you might have to wait, experience a divorce. But trust me, you’ll know when you have finally met that one. They are that one person you would never hurt, ever. I’ve seen many people go throught it, thinking they have found the one but then meeting the real "one". And I think it’s a really nice thought : )

User	eener | 2005-01-10 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Ever try working at a summer camp and meeting internationals? It worked for me; well, at least it’s working so far.

User	besodemuerte | 2005-01-10 |
Subject	untitled
Message	personal ad, eh? i dont know if i could do something like that... i think it would be kinda scary... i have a hard enough time making friends with online people i cant see... dont know if i could bring myself to go on a date with someone i’ve never met...

User	mae | 2005-01-10 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Ah, beso, you just never know where you’ll meet the love of your life. I lived in a teensy little town - so small it didn’t have even one stop light. I met my darling through a personals ad - you know one of those dating ads? We’ve been married 25 years now. mae

User	besodemuerte | 2005-01-10 |
Subject	untitled
Message	i dont know about one soulmate... i think that there are many... i think there are small groups of people with the same sort of souls... you know how you meet people that are exactly like other people you have met... soul-wise... maybe it’s caue i’ve traveled alot and met so many different people.. but i can go to a town on the other side of the country and pick someone out that is exactly like someone i met over here... it’s wierd like that... so, i think i have a few soul mates... i think i already met one.. i would’ve done anything for him.. gone anywhere... (i hopped trains and hitch-hiked across the country more than once to see him)...but there were some circumstances that made it so we couldnt stay together forever.. though he’s still trying, i will always be his friend... but i know that someday, i will meet someone.. probably just like him... but without the drug addictions and very strange upbringing that made things difficult... and i’ll be waiting for that day.. hopefully i wont have to wait too long.. but i know my soul mate isnt in this shitty little town...

User	Learah | 2005-01-09 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Rofl! what strange typos you make!

User	mae | 2005-01-09 |
Subject	Oops!
Message	That should have been EXIT - not exist! Sheesh! mae

User	mae | 2005-01-09 |
Subject	untitled
Message	I am, indeed, Learah. And I have every intention of making it to the end. If he tries to exist before then, I’ll kill him! mae

User	Learah | 2005-01-08 |
Subject	untitled
Message	You’re lucky, Mae... I hope you last forever with your love *hugs* :)