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User	| 2005-01-29 |
Subject	untitled
Message	If cutting is such a release, then why do the cutters insist on tormenting us with their cliche’d crappy poetry all the time? They don’t sound all that "released" in their tired dialogue. On another note. How in the hell does feeling pain make you human? Every animal on this planet has a capacity to feel pain. I tend to agree with the notion that there are people out there with a real problem. Those people probably aren’t on here writing bad poetry about it though. peace, fizzle

User	Di Re Rakord | 2005-01-22 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Thats the key. keep it in check. dont do it when your drunk, high or overdosed.

User	MorbidAngel114 | 2005-01-22 |
Subject	untitled
Message	I think it can actually be good, so long as it doesn’t get out of control. I’ve done it plenty of times when I get so angry that I could do something i would regret later. Even when I am real sad, it helps release pain. Maybe it is unhealty, but only if it seriously gets out of hand.

User	Di Re Rakord | 2005-01-18 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Ive been through about 2 counslors 3 theripists and 2 more psychiatrists. They did help, i dont do it nearly as much but they can only do so much.

User	Rokhal | 2005-01-17 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Never mind the "you people," I was reading from the top down.

User	Rokhal | 2005-01-17 |
Subject	untitled
Message	You people are talking about cutting like it helps. Is it anything but a symptom of a greater problem, like a chemical imbalance or loneliness? Get a counselor. It’s not that horrible, they just talk to you.

User	Di Re Rakord | 2005-01-17 |
Subject	untitled
Message	Thank you for your vote of confidence. And im glad you have moved on from cutting.

User	Apocalyptica | 2005-01-10 |
Subject	Sean
Message	Geez, cutting. My old girlfriend used to cut herself and I asked her the same questions posted in this thread. She gave me the same answers, too, about the whole "it’s a release from all the BS she’d put up with and makes her feel human again," and all that. I think the thing with cutting is that there are some who do it and it actually helps them, and these are the guys who are actually deeply depressed. As cutting is becoming a bigger and bigger trend, though, I think there are those "teen angst" kids who are just looking for attention. You know, "Oh, look at my arms, I cut myself because I’m sad and lonely, won’t you feel sorry for me?" I’m not saying this about all cutters, don’t get me wrong. If I thought my old girlfriend was doing it for those reasons, I would’ve left her a lot sooner than I did. No, I think that cutting is actually therapuedic for a lot of people, like a massage except it makes you bleed. Cutting is neither wrong nor right in my honest opinion, it’s just an unhealthy habit, like smoking. If it helps you, go for it. We all need a release sometimes. Just my two cents.

User	magnicat | 2005-01-09 |
Subject	untitled
Message	whatever works for you, dude.

User	Di Re Rakord | 2005-01-09 |
Subject	pain
Message	Because when your depressed almost 24/7 running or writing dosent do it for me. it makes me feel no diffrent. I still feel like an empty shell thats had the inside shreded and bled of all its original purpose and existance. cutting lets out the blood thats still there telling you theres a little bit more life in you than you might think. sweating only remins me im in a cage that i cant excape from. the pain keeps me sain. i developed this habbit in kimbo, i was put in soitary because i couldent act properly with others and you might go a little bit insane to if you were in a room for about a month straight. i started cutting myself withe my nails or id bite myself until i blead and that kept a small part of my sanity.

User	magnicat | 2005-01-09 |
Subject	untitled
Message	i can appreciate your descriptions of why you do what you do... when you talk about moving, though, and thinking that it will be the answer to you being able to stop doing it, it sounds like what we alcoholics like to call a "geographic." until you deal with the problem itself, moving somewhere else doesn’t really solve the problem because you take yourself with you. the old tapes will still run in your head no matter where you go. i can’t tell you what the answer is, but at least you are congnizant of the problem and that is the first step in dealing with it. more power to you!

User	eener | 2005-01-08 |
Subject	untitled
Message	When I was younger and in high school, I suffered from low self esteem and low self confidence. Basically, I thought I wasn’t worth very much. Picking impurities did (does) two things for me: 1) It helped to "put me in my place", and remind me that I was just an outcast and that I didn’t deserve to be anything more. 2) It served to get rid of my pimples, blackheads, whiteheads, etc. I hate them with a vengence. I figured if I just got rid of them, then it was a good thing, but the more I got rid of, the more appeared to replace them. And to make matters worse, my Dad would pick all the ones I couldn’t reach when I was younger. I soon learned to pick even the ones on my back, since his nails were shorter, so it hurt more when he did it. I’ve grown out of my acne almost all the way now, and I think a lot higher of myself (as shown in my poetry), but I still find myself stuck in the same cycles. Like today, for instance, my Mom was lecturing me and I sat there and picked my right shoulder until there were painful red bumps everywhere. Like I was punishing myself, even though her lecture should have been enough to set me straight. I think the only thing that will ever fix me will be when I graduate college and am able to move far away from where I’ve grown up, and to be able to start out totally fresh and new. At least I hope the damage done to my mind and body over the years isn’t irreversible.

User	magnicat | 2005-01-08 |
Subject	untitled
Message	why do you need to feel pain to remind yourself that you are human? there are other things that can remind you that you are human... like being able to think and use your mind, being able to write and put your thoughts into a poem. physically, you could run and sweat and exercise and feel those endorphines release... just curious. i appreciate your explanation, though, and i hope that maybe someday you can not have to feel that pain in order to feel alive.

User	Di Re Rakord | 2005-01-08 |
Subject	eener
Message	To: eener I wish some one told me to stop picking at myself as wll. im still onlt fifteen so i gues if i work hard enough i can get out of the habit but, i do it subconsciously so it gets hard to stop myself. thats all my mom ever does is say dont do that, and when a parent tells you to not do something it makes me want to do it even more.

User	Di Re Rakord | 2005-01-08 |
Subject	magnicat
Message	To: magnicat Cutting isint exactly a release, not for me anyway, its a reminder. The pain that you feel the blood that you see it reminds you that you are still alive, your still a human. Nomatter how you feel it kinda comforts you to know that you will always be human as long as you can feel pain. Thats why i do it anyway.

User	magnicat | 2005-01-08 |
Subject	untitled
Message	i do not understand the whole idea behind cutting... i have heard that it is a release, but isn’t there a more healthy way to do that? cutting yourself seems to come from a deep-seated lack of self-esteem. there has to be a way that we can help our young people see themselves in a positive light so that they don’t feel the need to maim and disfigure themselves.

User	eener | 2005-01-08 |
Subject	untitled
Message	I’m a dermatillomanic (compulsive skin picker). I’ve been this way for 8 years, and I’d love to stop and let my arms heal and the scars go away, but I’ve found it incredibly difficult. I wish when I had started that my parents would have steered me away from that and had tried to find me other ways to release my emotions other than upon myself, but they didn’t. All they did was say "don’t do that". What good did that do? Nothing. I think if only people knew other ways to release their emotions other than upon themselves, then they wouldn’t have to be self multilators. I wish others would realize this and offer guidance and help instead of accepting their ignorance regarding this subject.