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User	Demon__666 | 2005-12-13 |
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Message	well i appologize for voiceing my opinion on my forum post but ok what ever. Yes come to think of it your right it wasnt very nice but oh well.

User	GiveMeTheGun | 2005-12-13 |
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Message	You guys are funny.

User	mae | 2005-12-13 |
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Message	as a person changes their definition of love does change I would agree with that - that an individual’s definition may change. I don’ t think love itself changes. And Demon, what’s the matter with you? I didn’t say anything against anybody. Can’t you discuss something with someone whose opinion differs from yours? I have the utmost respect for Wolfie and she knows it. We don’t, however, always agree on issues. She and I have always been able to discuss those things we disagree on and either find common ground or just agree to disagree. And as far as saying something nice to someone, that was a really sweet comment you posted, wasn’t it. mae

User	Demon__666 | 2005-12-12 |
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Message	you wanna know what i think i think that if mae dosent have something nice to say to others she should kep her mouth shut.

User	joeyalphabet | 2005-12-12 |
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Message	Hey, mae, not trying to put words in wolfie’s mouth, but I think that as a person changes their definition of love does change; not that love is different, it just takes a different form. Certainly a lonely senior citizen’s definition would be different from a young person. I think that’s what she was trying to say.

User	mae | 2005-12-12 |
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Message	meaning of love changes as you get older and change. Wolfie, that statement doesn’t make sense. WE change, but the meaning of love shouldn’t. The form of it might, but its basic characteristics don’t. That’s one of the things that distinguishes true love from an infatuation - its staying power. Whether you are young or very, very old, the basics of love are the same. mae

User	WolfStar | 2005-12-10 |
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Message	I think the meaning of love changes as you get older and change. Example: Love for friends my age is the kind with lots of teddy bears and love notes and expensive birthday presents. Love for my 24-year-old sister is the kind with sparks and passion and desire and waking up in the morning realizing you don’t remember what the guy’s name is. Love for my 33-year-old sister is the kind with movies on the weekend and fine dining every now and then and conversations about goals and dreams. Love for my 46-year-old aunt is the kind with caring for the older spouse and settling into the patterns of everyday miracles of love: the way one person or the other does the laundry without being asked, or takes care of you when you’re sick, or builds a birdhouse because he knows you wanted one. Love for my 51-year-old mother is the kind where you forget all the failed loves of the past and start over, and still keep the possibility of trust and happiness in mind, where it’s nice just to have someone there when you get home and to talk to about what you fear in life, where you need to know that that person won’t wake up tomorrow and think less of you just because you haven’t brushed your teeth yet. So you see, love is something different for everyone at every age. Love is not any one thing. But it has the potential to be anything you let it become. So for now you may be bitter and hurt and depressed, but it should cheer you that love always changes along with you and over time. It doesn’t have to be same next time, and it won’t be the same 50 years from now. To me, love seems to be one of those things that changes so quickly that once you’ve already formed an opinion about it, it has already taken another form you have yet to discover.

User	| 2005-12-10 |
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Message	Misty, those are all subjective questions that you can’t REALLY know the answer to and that anyone in the throes of a strong infatuation will answer ’yes’ to. They do not form a reliable basis on which to judge the reality or depth of your feelings. I find it interesting that so many young people are giving these definitive answers on what REAL love is when you’ve not had a relationship long enough to know - you couldn’t have; you’re not that old. I’m not saying that your feelings are real and that they aren’t strong. I’m not even saying they aren’t love. What I am saying is that your guidelines are faulty and will let you down. mae

User	Demon__666 | 2005-12-06 |
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Message	wow misty this is an unusual comment for you to touch on thank you for the kind words. to anser the questions: yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes No im not dbouting anything at all. Thank you for careing. LYLAY SERINITY BLADE

User	misty_of_moon | 2005-12-05 |
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Message	what i want to know is why are you asking Serenity? are you doubting Bretts feelings toward you or are you doubting yours toward him? this is a touchy topic and if you arent sure you need to discuss that with the person it most directly affects and that is Brett. if you think you don’t know what love is ask yourself these simple questions(based upon my own thoughts toward love of course): would i love him if he lost his hair? would i love him if he were crippled for life? would i die to protect him? would i argue with him if it was for his own good? would i lie to the government to save him from certain death? would i love him if lost his job? would i love him if he did no longer love me? would i love him? serenity this is really a silly thing to ask when the easiest way to find the answe is in your heart.

User	mae | 2005-12-05 |
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Message	REAL love does not cause you to do stupid things, wrong things or things you wouldn’t normally do. Real love is uplifting, wants the best for you, is willing to wait for perfect timing, does not easily become angry, forgives, respects and desires to be in the presence of the other person. If you feel that way about someone, the chances are great that it’s real love. If you are involved with someone who does not make you feel that way or does not treat you in that way, then you’re looking at infatuation - a mostly physical attraction that will fade very quickly when the true nature of its object is seen. And you should not be afraid of real love. It is worth everything, everything in the world. There is nothing to compare. That’s why it’s so hard to describe. Real love feels RIGHT without having to be justified - it’s just right. It won’t need to explain itself or overcome objections. Other people - people you respect and trust - can usually see it before you do, and they can usually see when it ISN’T, as well. If your parents or others you respect have objections to your relationship, you should listen very carefully. Real love is not something to be afraid of but to be embraced. mae

User	wildchild | 2005-12-05 |
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Message	really? YAY!!! okay, honestly.... Rain at least knows how much this freaks me out but I seriously want to know how you KNOW i’m afraid of getting stuck in a relationship i can’t back out of if it’s not right.

User	Rain | 2005-12-05 |
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Message	okay, since you want a different answer....you’re true love will be wearing a big read sign that says your name on it...and ringing a bell while singing to high heaven how much he loves you

User	Rain | 2005-12-05 |
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Message	Wow, i’m suprised that you actually wrote that word, you’re so deathly afraid of love, ha, it’s funny. silly girl...okay, you’ll know, that’s all i can say. i don’t know how to explain it to ya. but all i know,is i’m going to be there to laugh at you as you freak out!!

User	wildchild | 2005-11-30 |
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Message	I don’t know about the rest of you but personally, I’m terrified of love. Not only because of the intensity of the emotion but also what you’ll do for it. I have a question for everyone, how do you know when true love comes to you... not just a fluke or some infatuation, but actual, REAL love?

User	Demon__666 | 2005-11-13 |
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Message	ah yes mae true true thank you for putting it in to prospective for me.

User	mae | 2005-11-13 |
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Message	Believe me, Demon, I’ve been through it all. But did you not ask for our views on love? I gave you mine. I’m not saying Toxic Rayne’s feelings aren’t real. I didn’t say that at all. But her/his views on love are skewed by lack of experience. What that person is describing sounds more like co-dependency than love: "you might do stupid things for them that change who you are in order to keep them alive. And in doing so, you hurt yourself, your friends, your family, and the one you love. Because you changed yourself." That’s not love, from either end. If you love someone, you don’t ask them to change (I don’t get the to keep them alive part. How can your changing keep someone alive?). That’s control, not love. And if you change because they want you to that’s not love, either, for them and especially not yourself. Love does not have to be temporary, in fact, real love is not. What IS temporary is infatuation. That’s is what is influenced by something else so that the feeling changes, not love. And I’m also not saying that a young person cannot fall in love. But that’s just not what Toxic Rayne is describing. Sorry, but it just isn’t. Ask anyone who has been in a successful long-term relationship. mae

User	Shiyoku | 2005-11-13 |
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Message	Love...It is something people cannot live without, but it kills so many in the end. You see the cases of those in which commite suicide for their loved one. When they packed their bags and left. Now people say true love cannot happen when you’re a teen but in my eyes, love doesn’t know how to count, so age cannot matter. any being can fall in and out of love at any time.

User	Demon__666 | 2005-11-12 |
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Message	Toxic_Rayne im sorry that this is happening to you i cant say i was actually in love with my dead person but i loved him a different way. People do stupid things just dont play follow the leader and go with him. That is a useless waste of time. You’ll meet that one again and for once the feelings maybe returned.

User	Demon__666 | 2005-11-12 |
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Message	MAE not to rant or anything but did you come out grown up cuz you just act like youve never been through this shit before.