| User | eowyn | | Topic | counciling required | | Message | i just recently decided i wanted to start up self defence, and was totally looking forward to it. was hanging out for it and all. then to my great dissapointment, my boyfriend tells me he wants me to wait a whole year, because our neigbourhood is dangerous, and i would need to catch public transport to get there.
i get where he is comming from, but its ok for him, since his family drives him to his martial arts, and he never has to worry about it, and that he is just so damn right and perfect all the time, as if he is always going to be there to save the day for me, and that after the year, he will pay for me, but the thing is, that since the neigbourhood has gotten so bad, its dangerouis to go out at noon, so i need to know how to look after myself now, and i am just not interested in any other self defense. |
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| User | eowyn | 2006-02-17 | | | Subject | cheers | | Message | well, thanx to all ur support, im taking the calsses. once my trail is over ill try and get to as many as i can, cause the thing is these casses are meant to be a blast.
look forward to running into you all over the place. |
| User | mae | 2006-02-15 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | Well, eowyn (luv your name!), I’m assuming you don’t stay shut up in your house or apartment 24 hours a day, every day. If not, how do you get about? And if you can get about for other things, why is this class different?
You know, I don’t want to cause problems where there were none before, but it really sounds to me like the problem is with your boyfriend, not your taking a self-defense class. I don’t know him, of course, but from your description, he sounds rather controlling.
If you can find a way to get there (either by teaming up with someone else going in the same direction and carpooling or by finding a ’buddy’ to ride with on the public transportation - or whatever you can find), that would be safe, then I think you ought to take the class. Boyfriend needs to be supportive. Asking you to wait a year to take a self-defense class is not only not supportive, it could be dangerous! mae |
| User | Sasha Lynn | 2006-02-15 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | Honestly, take the class. i took my tae kwan doe class last year and i have never felt so sure of myself. if you want to be able to protect and defend yourself its your choice. something that you can do to boost confindence is something that should be done. if you have to take public transit, do it anyway if you are sure that the transportation is moderatly safe. don’t put yourself in danger to learn something that could keep you out of danger- THAT doesn’t make any sense! be careful but try hard to make the class work ASAP. learning to defend yourself is really important, sepecially, from the sound of it, in your neighborhood. sometimes though, patience is the answer. basically all that my rambling is saying is that you have to weigh the dangers of NOT taking the class against those of getting there to take it!
SASHA LYNN |
| User | Seraphim | 2006-02-15 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | ................carry a big stick......... |
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