| User | silent_death12 | | Topic | ready | | Message | I was listening to two friends of mine arguing over things that people in general are ’ready to hear’ and it really got me thinking; depending on beliefs, experience, mental capacity, the ability to accept and respect others beliefs and whole number of other factors; there are things that various individuals aren’t ready to hear (much less respect or believe.) but who’s most at fault there?
Are we born more perceptive than we inevitably allow ourselves to be? If a child were raised in a more open environment that allowed for questioning and doubting and real free choice; it would probably be easier for them to embrace things; but would they have a harder time "adjusting" when dealing with other people? does that make anyone else truly sad?
idk...just a thought....=/ |
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| User | misty_of_moon | 2007-05-25 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | Here, here! a toast! to under INK, i couldn’t have said it any better than she! |
| User | alteredlife | 2007-05-24 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | To quote UnderINK:
"...but what they are fed should be information from every bias, not just one."
Yes, I second that. |
| User | chilz | 2007-05-23 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | My mother gave my brothers and I basic children rules of course but let us to decide who we were openly. She would never frown upon us for deciding against her but she would make her point to explain why she thought her "way" or "belief" was appropiate and then let us have a counteracting argument. She would also expose us to different lifestyles. I do believe I went through different religions constantly (with my mother who is strictly Christian) To find out I was, if at all, all those religions into one. I am a very open person today. I do not judge on beliefs but rather adittude and personality. I have many friends who were raised to be purely this or purely that and they tell me "what it is time to hear" And I sit down and listen to their points. But when it is time for what they need they shoot back and argue rather than listening to the points at hand and the opinion of a friend.
So all in all being exposed to different lifestyles and have that openness in my childhood I believe made me, not a better than those who havent person, but a more understanding of my fellow beings person. |
| User | silent_death12 | 2007-05-08 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | =) kewls, I agree....
no one ever did that for me; (hope it doesn’t show) but then again, no one ever guided me at all really in much of anyway. My poppop would share knowledge sometmes; he was a history teacher, so he’d sometimes talk about what he knew when he randomly felt like it. and he was definatly intelligent, so I could ask him questions and get a factual answer....
My mom, when she’s around, tosses in a perspective that I usually agree with her on but that a striking majority of people may not. so I guess you could say there’d be a more opinionated influence so to speak. and then my Nan is a very emotional person; so sometimes I’d watch her reactions to things and usually decide they were unnecessary and not want to be ’like that’ but sometimes pick things up anyway.....
I guess in short I agree with both of you, Ink you’re very lucky your dad was willing to share with you and be open to you thinking as you wanted.
and Dismentled, I’m living proof of your arguement; or at least I was until i decided to do something about it =)
thnx ^^ |
| User | UnderINK | 2007-05-07 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | My father gave me order by sitting me down in a room with books and teaching me. That posed authority or a superego over me. However, what he bothered to teach me was everything from every point of view. That is, he didn’t say, ’Gay marriage is wrong’, he gave me a history to gays, its frequency, the psychological arguments concerning it, the religious arguments and moral arguments, and so on. That is, he gave me the issue from every side and let me decide for myself, later on, where I stood. I believe kids need to be exposed, in other words. Order can be kept and the environment does not have to be OPEN, but what they are fed should be information from every bias, not just one. You have to give them an open space to learn or they will grow up thinking what you believe, not what they would believe if they could understand or hear it by themselves. I think you really disadvantage a person by making them grow up in a closed environment. |
| User | dismentled | 2007-05-07 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | Well, while an open-enviroment can be beneficail, a child also needs some form of order. And while you should force anything upon a child, they need guidance so that they may better form their own impressions, but without the guidance are likely to be left wondering without way. |
| User | silent_death12 | 2007-05-06 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | (did a double post ignore the other one O_o) |
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