| User | angela~ | | Topic | Death | | Message | I have already lost my mother and now have to deal with the fact that my dad only has a couple months to live. Pain of loss is really difficult to put deal with.
How have you dealt with this type of thing? How did you find comfort? |
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| User | angela~ | 2004-08-10 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | I really appreciate everyone’s input. One day at a time I suppose.... |
| User | Primal | 2004-07-29 | | | Subject | Death | | Message | I’ve dealt with it many times. So much that when it happens I don’t mourn so much anymore. Before anyone says "thats bad or wrong you need to mourn." instead of mourning the fact that a person is dead I look at it as "Despite the way they went it was their time now I’ll celebrate how they lived". It’ll hurt for sure, but time heals and leaves a scar. It’s always painful when time strikes with his hands. |
| User | angela~ | 2004-07-26 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | Thank you Belle De Jour. That really means a lot.
The hard part is that I have to catch a flight back to my hometown to see him within the next week. I can only stay for 2-3 days. I am having such a bad time dealing with the fact that when I get back on that plane to come home....I will never see him again.
I have very little family left. No saftey nets. No one to call when things get bad. It is very difficult and lonely. |
| User | Belle De Jour | 2004-07-24 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | My dear my heart aches for you and I am all to familiar with the death of parents. My father dies three years ago. It is probably the hardest thing I have had to deal with, I was his little girl and I miss him more than my words can express.
He was a writer and he passed this love to me. Writing has brought much comfort and growth for me within these last few years. I know for a fact that if it wasn’t for writing I would not be where I am today.
I am always here if you need to talk to someone, or bitch, cry, laugh, or sit in silence with. :) |
| User | SugarMouse | 2004-07-24 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | It’s an old cliche, but I suppose that death is just something you have to accept. My mum found grief very difficult to cope with after my little brother was stillborn… In the end she went to bereavement counselling, which really helped her… Just having someone to talk to, without worrying that you are burdening them. Having some kind of outlet is important. You can’t expect to flick a switch and for things to be okay. You have to accept the pain… Expecting to be free of misofrtune is like expecting to control the weather… You have to find your own consolations. Don’t expect to ’get over it’ quickly or slowly… People deal with these things in their own way… It will never seem fair, because it isn’t. Mostly I think talking to people or getting emotions out in some way is what is most helpful. Also, knowing that you’re not alone. In a strange way what I find most comforting is the tv series ’Six Feet Under’, but that may just be me. Becky |
| User | joeyalphabet | 2004-07-23 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | i lost both my parents--my father 16 years ago & my mom the follwing year. it’s just something that takes time. you never get over it, you just get more distant from it. |
| User | angela~ | 2004-07-21 | | | Subject | untitled | | Message | I meant to say put into words and deal with. |
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