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User	Dark Romeo89 | 2006-02-19 |
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Message	hell no when your cheated on you should walk away from the relationship that just makes things worse

User	Magnolia Steele | 2006-02-19 |
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Message	Is two wrongs right? Should a person go out and cheat just because they were cheated on? Maggie

User	insphered soul | 2006-02-19 |
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Message	*claps*

User	WolfStar | 2006-02-19 |
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Message	1. While "once a cheater, always a cheater" is hardly fair, I would say that it didn’t matter. Once a person cheats on me, it’s not about whether they’ll do it again. I could not live every day afterwards living in fear in the back of my mind that that person will do it again. It’s not about them; it’s about me. I can’t live with that fear because I, and everyone else, deserves better than that. Once someone cheats, I’m gone. We can be friends and I can forgive, but we can’t be together after that. That part of the relationship is gone. As far as why people cheat, I think that as a society we honor fidelity as a sacrifice of our sexual freedom in order to reach a deeper level of human relations (namely, love). And the problem with that is that we always feel the consequence. You must choose which sacrifice you will make: sexual freedom or love based on companionship. If you have a habit of cheating, then it needs to be established in the relationship that you want sexual freedom. If the other person agrees to it, then great. If not, either compromise or move on. Life’s short. There’s no time to be wasted in empty promises and fruitless attempts to conform to society’s standards of living.

User	Magnolia Steele | 2006-02-18 |
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Message	I’m glad you agree. I hate to see people repeatedly cheat on someone who they claim to love them. It is just plain wrong. In the case of your uncle and aunt, they got some kind of agreement going on. Tha’s their choice, at least they are open with it. But the ones who do it and want to keep the prize also...that is just plain selfish and unloving. Maggie

User	Dark Romeo89 | 2006-02-18 |
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Message	dam strait magnolia

User	Magnolia Steele | 2006-02-18 |
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Message	Thank you for sharing that. I think that love plays a big part in if a person cheats once, and refrian from doing it again. Keep in mind there all types of love and some emotions are often mistakened for love. It you feel like you can cheat agin, and have thoughts of it, then it’s best to be single and date as you wish and let the faithful party carry on in life and find true love with someone who values him or her more than a chance to tap someone’s ass. Maggie

User	Dark Romeo89 | 2006-02-18 |
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Message	i have cheated on a girl i have no excuse(even the fact that i was drunk, i still knew right from wrong) i was going out with a girl named kim(she was cheating on me with one of my friends and another guy but thats not the point) i have never cheated on erica and i never will people can change but not in the same relationship if you can cheat on somebody then they cant mean that much to you if somebody can cheat on their partner once thay can, and chances are will, cheat on them again if someone cheats on you then there is no potential in the relationship(well that depends on the relationship, ill tell you why) i have an unckle and aunt ,married, who cheats on each other, sort of neither one cares they come back home and tell one another about it my unckle told me that that is why they are still togeather he said that she is the only woman he loves and that the rest is just sex that is how they want to live it makes them happy they are both open with eachother no secrits

User	insphered soul | 2006-02-18 |
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Message	well spoken both of you.....i agree 100%. you have to have strong character, faithfulness to your mate, loyalty and trust.........and its hard to have all of these in a relationship

User	DarkenedSoul | 2006-02-18 |
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Message	Well put Magnolia.Character is a major factor in whether or not a person will cheat especially whether or not they were raised to be a religous person., but nobody is perfect.I realized how stupid it was after the fact and have never cheated again; but then I’m older and wiser now.It’s an unnessary risk for no true gain and therefore not worth doing.

User	Magnolia Steele | 2006-02-18 |
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Message	Actually, our culture has been troubled long before you were born. Loving someone does not ensure they will be faithful. And being smart sure as hell has nothing to do with it. It is a matter of a person’s own character and how much they value a good relationship they have for a piece of ass they want. Maggie

User	WritingPrincess | 2006-02-18 |
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Message	duh! our culture has gone downhill ever since Clinton was prez. only a few people are still smart enough to find someone they and stick to see where it goes

User	Magnolia Steele | 2006-02-17 |
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Message	And you succede. Maggie

User	insphered soul | 2006-02-17 |
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Message	hehe thanks, i try to be

User	Magnolia Steele | 2006-02-17 |
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Message	Smart young man you are Zach. Maggie

User	insphered soul | 2006-02-17 |
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Message	i dont know what to say on that, he was probably just upset that you couldn’t come and he put it towards the wrong place (you). and i think it better to tell the truth, i agree with Maggie on that mantra

User	Magnolia Steele | 2006-02-17 |
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Message	You are right Erica. And as for your story, I could not tell you yes or no, since I don’t know Stewart and his side of this. Maggie

User	DrkRomeo_sGirl | 2006-02-17 |
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Message	:( It was wrong for me to cheat but i had a good enough reason to . at the time i wuz dating a dude named stewart and one friday night at a football game he was there and i couldnt go bc i was had a cold and i didnt need to be out in the weather. So he called me and i told him i could nt go, he cussed me out but never said it was over but i still took that as a break up. SO i called on my friend Roman and he come over to comfort me, and we ended up making out. What stewart done to me, does that sound like a break up to you? I shurely thought so, but i still condidered that a lil to be cheating. Thats the only time though. Im with DJ(darkromeo89). We are engaged and i could not pic myself with anyone else. SO no i dont htink once a cheater always a cheater. Anybody can Change if they TRUELEY want to .

User	Magnolia Steele | 2006-02-17 |
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Message	It will come out one way or another, maybe not in your lifetime, but it will be revealed. And what better way to show it was truly a mistake then to fee up. If we teach our kids to fess up if they did wrong, like break a vase or spill milk, how much more soo over something that really mattered. Had my bf lied about it, I would have not looked back as I left him. Truth is what builds respect and love, if you are covering over a affair, you are living a lie, and soon it will be to much to bear and there is always someone who know the truth beside you. hiding is for cowards. That’s just my take on it. Maggie

User	| 2006-02-17 |
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Message	That’s a very good point. I’ve heard it said that it’s wrong to tell someone you’ve cheated if it’s just a one time thing because why put that pain on them when the guilt is your own cross to bear. I’m kind of in the middle on it. I wouldn’t want to hur the person any more than already, but at the same time feel they have the right to know, especially with the std’s that are running rampant these days. *onetruesmartass*