| User | ChickenLittle |
| Topic | Stay or Go |
| Message | I have a slight problem here.
My boyfriend and i have been together for quite some time, however, before me he was married to a girl who throughout their marrage and is still a stripper. During the time that they were together they had a beautiful baby boy. After she had filed for divorce they decided to do a test to see if the baby was his or not... Results come back and the child is not his. Obviously, he is devistated. I was doing the best that i could to comfort him, even though i had never been in that sort of situation before. Although he is not biologically his father, he still wants to be in the kids life, which i completely understand. I mean, he raised the kid for quite some time. Well... Lastnight me and him went to bed like any other night. He kissed me, told me he loved me, and then put his arm around me and we fell asleep. He gets up EARLY to go to work each morning, and i get up about 2 hours later to go to my job. I got up, walked to the bathroom to find a pretty pink sticky note on my mirror. He is a sweet guy, and he leaves me sweet little messages around the house for me to find. Feeling excited i picked up the letter and... Well... He cut all ties with me. So today i moved all my things out of our house we had together. I made sure i had all of my stuff out of there, and left my keys to the house on the night stand. Obviously i wouldnt be needing them anymore. My mom and my best friend helped me move. Not knowing that rockband didnt belong to me, my mom put it in the back of her truck. I went to my moms later this evening and saw the guitar there.... I was like WHOA that is his... i’m not keeping that. After leaving the keys there, there was no way taht i was going to just take the game back into his house, so i drove it over to his parents house and gave it to them. Turns out, he hadn’t even said anything to them about the split, and made me look like a crybaby to them when i had to explain what had happened. I remind you, His family HATES his ex wife. But they absolutely adore me. :) Whats crazy is i gave that man all of my heart and soul... and he threw it on the floor. All i have done for the last two days is cry and cry. I cant sleep, i havent eaten anything but half of a pudding cup and a peice of lettuce. I dont know what to do with this situation... Should i try to talk some sense into him? Should i beg for him to come back? Should i let him figure it out on his own? Should i smack him upside the head? Please give advice!! |
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| User | abuzzbuzz92 | 2008-08-24 | |
| Subject | untitled |
| Message | Give him a little bit of time. It must have come as a shock to him that the kid wasn’t his. He will probably realize that he didn’t handle it right. Just give him some space for a while and if he doesn’t come to his senses soon, try to move on. |
| User | Blue Monk | 2008-08-23 | |
| Subject | untitled |
| Message | Reminder - There are at least three million, million (billion) males on this planet. With such a variety it would be a shame to stick yourself with a bad deal and become part of any futher sad/bad history - which is also what HE might be thinking if he really cares for you.
Either he’s a real prince and needs time to think things out or just a real self-involved/selfish turd, huh? If there’s drugs and/or alcohol involved, it’d be best to distance yourself until at least that’s out of the picture. Good luck and at least learn something out of this deal. |
| User | silent_death12 | 2008-08-23 | |
| Subject | untitled |
| Message | first off, if he did all that and your heart and soul was in it, why would you leave without trying to contact him at all??
and second, I gotta agree with Joey, find a friend or family member or *someone* that you can talk to that you actually trust for advice with something that big. |
| User | joeyalphabet | 2008-08-23 | |
| Subject | untitled |
| Message | don’t take advice from strangers on the web! |