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    dots Submission Name: How to Receive a Giftdots

    Author: Mandolin
    ASL Info:    10/15/89
    Elite Ratio:    5.4 - 131/145/85
    Words: 585
    Class/Type: Prose/Misc
    Total Views: 1176
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    dotsHow to Receive a Giftdots

    First, who is giving you a gift?

    If it is someone you do not like and you know there are alternative motives, politely refuse. If they insist, refuse again. No matter what the gift is, refuse.

    If it is a gift of someone trying to make amends, think if you are being bribed with the gift or if they are sincerely sorry and giving out of care for you. If you are the disagreement starter, realize how desperate this person is to be in an alright place with you - but if the gift is something personal, as a token of things being alright and that you're sorry, give them a gift. If the gift was something they prized, return it but with a pleasant alteration or a "bonus" or with something you prize.

    If someone you don't know gives you a gift, think about their motives. If they are trying to buy your affection and a favor before you know them well or have even been introduced, you may accept but think of it as a bribe. Think of what it means, not of what it is, not if it is something you want. It is a complicated situation and is up to you and your judgment.

    When a casual friend gives a gift, it probably won't be anything you might treasure for your whole life, so a thank you and a smile will do.

    If a closer friend tries to give you a gift, you will begin to find the closer and more dear the giver the harder it is to receive. This is because it is easy to feel guiltless taking something from a stranger or someone you do not know well, but when someone who is closer to your heart gives from their heart to you, the weight of it is a hefty weight indeed. You may even feel extreme guilt, shame, or in literal debt to the person. It steals some fun from receiving, but don't you remember when you were younger and it was your birthday and it didn't matter who gave the gift, you just had the pure joy of getting. Don't feel guilty about that, instead, be thankful and let a little of that leak into being loved by someone dear to you.

    When the someone you love gives you a gift it is hard to know how to react. You want to show them how much it means, how amazing it is to you that they are 'giving' to you.
    You may act undeserving, refuse the gift because it was 'too much', or may quickly give them a gift in return.

    The best way to receive a gift is to show joy, that is the best way. It rewards the giver, and lets you enjoy your gift, lets you feel pleasure and appreciation that is guiltless. Don't act false, but think about the thought that went into your gift.

    To receive what was not 'bought' for yourself is the most humble of things.

    To receive something you didn't earn, could not earn, is humbling but it should also bring a happiness of getting something.

    To say you don't deserve or have not earned is irrelevant, but it will hurt the giver, because the fact they are giving makes you deserving.

    The receiver is always deserving in the heart of one who loves them. Enjoy your gift. You are somebody's favorite person.

    Feel good.

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      This piece, I can say, was not what I expected from the title. I can also say honestly that the work is both thought-provoking and strangely appealing. The meaning goes deeper beyond the surface than can be elicited at first glance.

    You captured very subtly and aptly the nuances of emotion and human behaviour, which is something I appreciated. This was accompanied by tremendous insight; I understand that it is difficult to cover this much in so little (half a thousand!) words, and therefore am even more surprised (albeit presently) at the effect.

    There were occasional portions of the text, occasional epithets, which felt clunky or forced, e.g.

    "If it is a gift of someone trying to make amends, think if you are being bribed with the gift or if they are sincerely sorry and giving out of care for you. If you are the disagreement starter, realize how desperate this person is to be in an alright place with you ..."

    I feel that you could have found a synonym for "think"; it does not fit the sentence structure that well. Moreover, "disagreement starter" sounds too much like the neologisms that newspapers coin for every possible situation. I'm sure you could easily think up two or three other phrases that fit in the sentence better.

    But the conclusion reinforces the essence of your piece, which is essentially about the giver-receiver relationship; the piece ended on a good note.

    You really are good at describing and evoking emotions.

    La Muse d'Azur
    | Posted on 2007-10-09 00:00:00 | by Azuire | [ Reply to This ]
      First of all, this was a fun piece to read, extremely creative. This is very in depth, you give many (if not all) the situations of receiving a gift. I think my favorite situation is

    "If it is someone you do not like and you know there are alternative motives, politely refuse. If they insist, refuse again. No matter what the gift is, refuse."

    I agree with Manwithnoname in that its wordy, but at the same time, I can see why you would put it in so many words, like most manuals, which are all wordy and often reiterate common themes and practices. I would have personally liked it more if it had been more written the way someone would speak, possibly even some examples of dialouge, of bad ways to say thank you or bad ways to refuse a gift

    When I read the title, I was honestly expecting more of a comedy piece, and I was somewhat saddened when I realized it was more serious than I had expected, but that didn't take away from it at all.

    Very original concept, thank you for posting this.
    | Posted on 2007-10-01 00:00:00 | by Silenced Hope | [ Reply to This ]
      "I have exhibited to YOU in all things that by thus laboring YOU must assist those who are weak, and must bear in mind the words of the Lord Jesus, when he himself said, ‘There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.’” - Acts 20:35

    Ah, how great the happiness of giving! A smile on the face, the happy disbelief, the hug, the thanks. Truly a gift in itself.

    Interesting. A manual on receiving a gift. I never thought someone would ever think about writing something like this.

    Good thoughts and instructions, but too lengthy and, in parts, boring. Not that I don't appreciate what is considered in it. I just think it could be abbreviated somewhat.

    Yeah, whenever I receive a gift from someone I feel undeserving. And yes, you've got a point about receiving a gift from someone who loves you. You just feel like you've got to give them something as well. 'Thank you' just doesn't feel enough.

    So, basically, try to cut this down a bit. Make it a little less wordy. That's really the only thing I don't like about it.

    | Posted on 2007-10-01 00:00:00 | by manwithnoname | [ Reply to This ]

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