Defining a Man ( A Letter to my Daughter )
What is a man in these modern day attitudes and parlances of our times
harder now, I think to define a man than maybe it was
but then maybe not, considering how much we all have learned
Rather it should be easier for a man to define himself, as a man, in these days, than it was in the past, but this seems not to be the case.
Ever it seems, men, cling to the ideas of “The Macho Man” ( which if you think about it is so Gay.. trying to prove to everyone that you are not Gay, by being a “Man”….. how gay is that ? )
Any “Man” that conforms to a stereotype, or the stereotypically accepted view of what a man is “Is not” a man
But a mere shadow of one
Who by acceptance has agreed in his own conscience “not” to think past or beyond
a cultural definition of what he is
And therefore has not explored to any depth the idea of maleness and all its qualities of personality
They have, to say, accepted a definition of themselves which is a blanket and an easy excuse to explain what they are and how they behave.
I can count the number of men I have met in my life on the fingers of two hands
but I have encountered an innumerable group of brainless masculine gender defined people
in their thousands….
Firstly a man is or has the courage, “not” to define himself by stereotype
he becomes a wolf instead of a sheep and so to some degree an outcast. ( and so many sheep call themselves wolves that it is laughable considering their obeisance to acceptance )
A man, does not use self-centred egoism as an excuse for truth or a replacement for truth
He will contend with any rationale that challenges his idea or view of his life or world until it can or has proved itself to be better than his own
In which case it becomes his own rationale.
A man does not, by the use of any force, verbal, physical, emotional or mental, make any person submit to his will, in order to prove that he is right. ( erroneously or not )
A man will use his physical strength to defend, not attack.
A man will let down his guard and weep openly
He will allow himself to appear weak
He will show himself to be pathetic
A man will recognise the fact that he has a heart
A mans persona and strength stems from truth
And the courage of truth
( Everyone lies at some point, about something, but those things which truly matter,
as in, matters of the heart, these should remain inviolate and require of a man nothing
more than the absolute truth; without this he himself is nothing. )
But above all Mi Icha
any man, who is a stereotype of a stereotypical male
Is not a man at all
But a mere shadow of an individual.
Such a man has relinquished every responsibility he might have had to cognizant judgement
and handed it over to a mere role play in society.
Such a man will confess love, but to him it will be a game of ego’s in which one
( yours or his ) or the other will dominate.
And those fashion conscious gangster rappers of money defined lives.
Those believers in drug cultures.
Those oh so cool and handsome boys in their newly acquired uniforms of t shirt and product label,
the unpaid walking adverts for Nike and Puma
are those rational thinking men ?
Or just idiot sheep following the idiot trend ?
In order to survive and see these idiot men
You have to be better than them.
And see with your own heart into the hearts of men.
what the hell are we
once women were the oppressed sex
but now I think its men who are the oppressed as most of us have no idea what a man is supposed to be
other than role models seen in films