I have often wondered where the problem actually lies. See, I am a very fat man, and am in reality pretty ugly my most populist standards. However, I don't see myself that way. I look in a mirror and yeah I notice I am fat and a bit homely, but on a personal leval I am truly ok with it. My only problem is that the rest of the world is not ok with it. The rest of the world refuses to see past the fatass and will not give me a chance. Though, were it not for perceptions of the rest of the world I would not be upset being what I am. So really what I am asking is this: Is your problem with yourself or the rest of the world? If the problem is with the rest of the world, then you need to learn to ignore it as I do (the best that we can anyway) but it the problem is within yourself, I have no help to offer because as I said before, on a personal level being fat and ugly really dosn't bother me.