Description: Im in a relationship my brothers and sister do not approve of...we have been close for so long and now they refuse to speak to me. Words cant describe how lonely I am without them but they cannot control me or my life... but have I become someone else....are they right...I just dont know and time is just ticking away and me and this guy have been together for over a year already...how much longer will this go on..something has to change Im not happy at all!!
The Life Mod -------------------------------------------
I have been stifled with feelings.
So many I can no longer recognize their diversity.
I have lost fragments of myself,
and I'm aware of my bereavement.
And its feasible this modification is now permanent to my being.
Im at a loss...
and this metamorphosis has made me someone I don't recognize...
and genuinely wouldn't want to.
There is no happy ending to this
and lots of unnecessary time.
As we get older, it's easier to cling to a bad relationship than to go without one. Women I think are more likely to change to accommodate their partners than the other way around, and sometimes they just bring out the worst of our existing traits. Take a look at what your get in return. If you are not happy with who you are, are you really happy? There are no easy answers, but you can recapture part of who you were, but she is always marked by who you have become. Those memories and experiences morph into who you are yet to be which I've found not to be such a bad thing at all.
Sorry you are having such a rough time right now. (((Hugs)))
This is very common, to lose yourself in a relationship/situation. Sometimes it is because you have no one to keep you grounded, and remind you of who you are. This piece encompasses that feeling perfectly. Do what you have to do to feel like yourself again. Nothing is worth the loss of your identity.
Time will tell...but the future is not set. Some believe we have no control over what the days to come bring us...but I don't subscribe to that train of thought. We have a choice...we have free will.
I was in a similar situation many years ago. My family just didn't "like" her. At first, they were happy for me...but then they sensed a change. It wasn't a good change. They felt what I couldn't see...or rather...what I chose not to see. In the end, had I listened to them (or listened to me), life would have taken me on a different path...
I say, if you are happy, follow your heart. Just don't confuse feeling good with happiness...sometimes they are not one and the same.