Description: My family is bringing me down about turning 29 on Tuesday. I'm not married. I'm not sure that I want to be, but my family always tells me that "Even ugly girls get married by the time they're thirty." It really hurts. They make me feel like a useless hag, but I know I'm attractive. I do have a boyfriend, but they seem to forget that. Not having a job hasn't helped any. I hate the pressure that society puts on women. I'm not saying that I believe this. It's just how they make me feel.
This feeling has passed, but I just had to get it out of me, but I suppose you guys can relate to that.
Sell By Date -------------------------------------------
I'm getting old
in one year it'll be official,
an old maid,
a cow no one wants to buy
by the sell by date,
even if reduced for quick sale,
but you say I'm beautiful
just to soften my blow.
I don't cry for the lines on my forehead
but for the future
that is slapping me across my homely face,
and the mistakes that I've made
that leave me not knowing what to do.
stay true to yourself, Amy. other people's opinions about when you should get married, how you should live your life, etc., need to tend to their own backyards. i truly believe that women get better with age. heck, women are in their prime in their 40's! you are just gearing up for the ride! you are a beautiful and talented woman, and have a lot to offer the world. hey, i'm 45 and i ain't married. don't ever plan to be, either, and i don't think i'm an old maid. i rather enjoy the freedom! i'm glad you got this out, though. the line about "slapping my homely face" made me cry for you. i hope you don't really feel that way. have a good day, ladybug.
my sister is 27 and my parents are the same. they're waiting for a husband. but I think they will have to wait long. my sister isn't the one who is so keen on getting married. and well, my brother is 30 and still single. I like the cow reference. it's harsh but I think it fits well to how you are/have been feeling. and I think the one who says you're beautiful is Paul. you better listen to him.
Come on now... surely you don't buy the whole 'sell by' spiel?? Finding the right partner shouldn't have an age restriction to it... I like the way you expressed your dilemma through this poem. Good work!
There is no age at which we are officially old! It is a stae of mind. Think young - Be young. Finding love is a matter of chance. All one can do is try to decrease the odds. So meet single people and enjoy life, and what happens...happens. Your poem expresses your emotions quite explicitly. It evokes in the reader what I'm sure is the desired effect. The images are creative and modern (sell by date), but the sentiment (lonliness) is as old as Man. Your writing is a powerful tool and you employ it skillfully
This is such a good write and I'm sorry you feel this way. I believe you should live your life and not worry about what others think about the 'right' age for marriage or a job. I hope you get to feeling better and this is a great write. -blt
This cannot be autobiographical. Even if it pertains to someone you know, it is ridiculous. My grandmother found true love at the age of 75 and there are still suitors, but she doesn't want to be a "dying place" for old men any more. If you want to catch marlin though, you need bait, some very specific tackle and you need to get to the water where these fish are found. Go fish!
jesus.. story of my life. i know we're 'not supposed' to say 'i can relate'..but christ.. it was like i was reading about myself. living in a middle eastern culture the sell by date comes a little earlier.. my parents are ok about it but the extended family.. along with a few other extremely nosey people.. seem to be mortified that i'm 25 and have not yet snared myself a husband... 'there must be something wrong with her'.. 'why hasnt she found someone yet?'.. you obviously have a lot going for you.. dont let insensitive remarks get to you. cheesy as it sounds.. as long as you're happy. that's all that matters.