"Nice guys finish last" and "At first life is good, then it will become confusing or suck, but in the end life will be good." How many times have you heard these? The first one you have heard before I am assuming, but the second you have not heard of most likely. You have not heard of it, because I came up with it. For me both quotes are the story of my life. Growing up I have always been the "nice guy." The guy that will listen to anyone no matter what, the guy that will help anyone with situations in his or her life, the guy that is always there for anyone, etc.
This life style is a hard one to live, because you want everything to turn out right for everyone. Then, you remember that you live in a world where nothing will ever turn out right for everyone. I decided on the "nice guy" lifestyle after a situation in my childhood, and I thought I would never have to face a situation like that again. Regrettably, I am currently going through a tough situation. Since I have chosen this lifestyle, it has given me ideas.
Since I have, been living the "nice guy life" I have come up with ways to describe this lifestyle. After looking at how life is a constant circle I came up with this, "At first life is good, then it will become confusing or suck, but in the end life will be good." This quote is so true in my opinion, because life is just a constant cycle of being good and bad. The theory I have come up with, in my opinion is very interesting. I based the theory off the quote, "Nice guys finish last." Now in my opinion in high school and part way through college girls normally look for the "bad boy," because they want to have a good
time. Then in the rest of college and sometimes during high school girls will start to look for a person they might want to settle down with, which will normally be the "nice guy." Logically then, nice guys finish last in the beginning but then end up on top. My favorite thing that I have come up with is the metaphors to describe things in life. One is that life is like a roller coaster, because life has many ups and downs (hills and drops), things that throw you for a loop (loop-de-loops), and things that just blow you away (backwards or corkscrews). The other is that problems can be described as holes. Thus the bigger the problem the deeper the hole and if the hole gets too deep you are on your own to get out. Then, the only way you can get out is on your own, trying to hear the advice of people, and hoping that you can use their advice. The event that occurred in my life to make me choose this lifestyle and come up with these ideas happened in my childhood.
Thinking back on childhood can bring back so many memories. One that sticks out to me though is the one that made me choose the "nice guy" lifestyle, because up until this event I was not living my "nice guy" lifestyle. I had two really good friends when I was growing up. One day when I was not around the two of them got in a huge fight and decided to never be friends again. Thus, I was thrown into the middle, had to choose which friend I wanted to keep, so, I gave in, and the friend that I picked is still my best friend to this day. I have not had any contact with the other friend since that day really, except for when I have passed him in the hallways. Due to that, I really do not miss him. Looking back, I have realized that this event changed the way I would be, because I never wanted to go through a situation like that again. This event helped me choose the "nice guy" lifestyle, because I never wanted anyone to get hurt again in a situation like this. I know I hurt the other friend, although I really have never had contact with him. The only time I had seen him was in the school hallways occasionally, and we would pass not saying a word. I thought I would never face a difficult situation like this again, but regrettably, I was wrong.
So far, in my life, things have been going good for me, and I have done pretty well with not having to choose between people again, until now. For I have dug myself, the biggest hole I have ever had before, yes in my opinion, it is worse, then having to choose between friends. It is still so deep that the only thing that reaches me is people's advice on what to do, because only I can get myself out of this problem. This problem is resulting from the fact that I broke up with my first girlfriend over the summer. Now, that I am trying to move on I have learned that she still has feelings for me and does not like the fact that I am trying to move on. I was going to try to go out with her best friend, but that did not work out. For I learned something about her friend, but that is a completely different story.
Now I have started going out just this last weekend with a girl that is pretty much my ex-girlfriend's mortal enemy. My ex and my current girlfriend have told me that they do not get along, even others have told me that they do not get along. All I know is that they used to get along, but then when a new person came into the church youth group, then my ex more or less stopped doing things with my current girlfriend. I have written a song is is entitled "The Life Of A Nice Guy." The song is one of the ways I have come to express my "nice guy" lifestyle. Heed my words; only decide to live the "nice guy" lifestyle if you can handle stress and a variety of situations.
Living the "nice guy" lifestyle has been very challenging for me. When it gets me down, I try to remember that I will not be finishing last for much longer. This helps somewhat, so I also try to remember being nice, easy-going, and making whomever you are talking to feel like the center of the world attracts girls to guys. Therefore, to all of the nice guys out there just wait soon the smoke will clear and you will be first and those that are not nice guys will be last. Do not forget "At first life is good, then it will become confusing or suck, but in the end life will be good."